I felt led to share my response on this question recently posted our teens’ page @ ask.fm/ChoZenTeens.
Question: What do you do when you are pressured to do something that’s not holy, but you don’t want to be seen as the kid that backs out of dares or that kid that is scared to have excitement?
It’s understandable that you want to fit in. But you also have to realize that you are called to be different, chosen, peculiar. And because of that, you will not always fit in. You have to make a decision about who you’re going to please, God or man (your friends)? Who’s priority, who’s more important to your future, who gives you life, not just physically but in purpose (your reason for being)? Excitement and fun can be good too, it doesn’t have to be negative, bad, sinful or destructive – that’s just not true. People of the world will make it seem like it’s all good, but it’s not. You can turn up for Jesus, be saved and have fun doing it. You just may not be able to do it with that crowd. Your circle of friends says a lot about who you are and it may be time to re-shape your circle with people that feel like you do. When you are pressured, remember that God says we will feel pressure and suffer (2nd Timothy 2:3-5). The Word tells us to endure it, proudly, like a good soldier, and to not get caught up in the affairs of this life (dares, unholiness) when your aim is to please and honor God, above all and everyone else. Have confidence in who God’s called you to be, be confident and proud that you value holiness over a sinful good time. It matters. And at the end of the day, you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and will attract friends that won’t make you feel pressured to do things you’re not comfortable with, in a bad way. Those are not friends. Real friends honor and respect who you are instead of trying to make you like them. Leaders are leaders for a reason, because they lead, not follow.